A Novel Approach to Navigate Hard Conversations at Work
As Gen Z enters workplaces, you may need new strategies to resolve conflict.
Updated April 16, 2026 | Reviewed by Margaret Foley
Your youngest team members may just be different from the rest of your team, and the most vivid illustration of this difference is in how they perceive hard feedback.
This challenge is obviously not limited to the young. But it’s common for Gen Zers to report being “flooded,” a psychological term describing feeling overwhelmed or feeling pressure, huge expectations, or uncertainty. Some now practice “bathroom camping,” which involves a staff member locking themselves in a restroom stall until they can collect themselves emotionally.
I believe these realities compel leaders to adapt their approach to tough interactions.
A Novel Approach That Increases Your Chances of Resolution
In my new book, The Future Begins with Z, I explain how you can lead Generation Z to help them catch up emotionally with older generations. They bring so much to work teams—strengths that will help you navigate the future—but you’ll need to adapt to get them ready. When you need to have a tough conversation at work, I suggest this path.
First, host a meeting to discuss expectations right away. Put tough issues on the table up front. Clarify that your aim is to reduce conflict in the future. (Conflict expands based on the distance between expectations and reality). Tell them: “Our number one goal is to help you succeed here.” Let them know the work is hard, but it’s worth it. Keep your standards high—and communicate your belief that they can meet them. Put these standards and expectations in print.
Second, in subsequent difficult conversations, let them lead off first. Ask them to share their perspective. What’s their take on the hard situation? Do they see it differently than you? This will inform how you need to direct the discussion. Allowing them to go first gives them a chance to feel heard. As you respond, reiterate how much you believe in them and their ability to do the job. They need high belief and high expectations.
Third, return to the original expectations you shared in your earlier meeting. It’s always wise to go back to what both parties agreed upon. If one side failed, acknowledge it at this point. The standards serve as a “plumb line” from which you measure both staff and leaders. This prevents meetings from spiraling into subjective “he said, she said” cycles.
Finally, always communicate care and competence up front. This deepens trust. My focus groups with Gen Z members revealed they often feel like a “commodity” that’s used and eventually thrown away. Gen Z needs to know you care for them as humans. Find ways to consistently demonstrate your care for them. This lubricates any friction.
Three Questions They Are Silently Asking
Pat Lencioni, founder of The Table Group, remains one of my favorite leaders and consultants anywhere. He reminds me that my new employees—especially young ones—are asking three questions of their supervisor. I must answer these clearly:
My friend Renee Walter told me, “Generation Z is the sandpaper on my leadership I did not know I needed.” That’s so true for me. If you let them, they will make you a better leader.
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Tim Elmore is the founder and president of Growing Leaders, an international non-profit organization created to develop emerging leaders.
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